Principles for Difficult Relationships – 4

Released September 11, 2025 by Christian Working Woman with Mary Lowman

 

Have you ever worked with someone who was arrogant? A person who tried to tell you what to do and had delusions of grandeur? I’m examining some of the difficult relationships you may encounter on your job. As I've noted, one of the many purposes of difficult relationships is to teach us needed and important lessons. And humility is certainly an important lesson we can learn through an arrogant coworker.

The “Humble Yourself” Principle

Jesus says:
For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted (Luke 14:11).

Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time (1 Peter 5:6).
Have you learned to look for opportunities to humble yourself? Now, I’m not talking about false humility, such as running yourself down, refusing to accept a compliment, or walking around with your head hung low. Most every day we will find opportunities to humble ourselves. For example, if you work with a bossy coworker, it is humbling to keep your mouth shut and not say something back to him or her. It is humbling to take his or her suggestion.

I began asking God to show me when and how to humble myself. It’s a good prayer and I recommend it to you. I found that not insisting on my rights was a key way to humble myself; not talking about myself or my accomplishments was another. Not needing to have the last word is another good way to humble yourself.

But don’t lose sight of the promises given to us when we truly are willing to humble ourselves. We will be exalted. Notice Peter said we will be lifted up in due time. That's probably not as soon as you would like it to be, but it will be in the right time after you have learned the valuable lesson of humbling yourself.

If you have a difficult person to deal with today, one who is arrogant or treats you in a condescending way, ask God to show you when you should humble yourself with this person. You’ll be amazed at the blessing it will bring to you when you practice this principle. And humbling yourself is much easier than having to be humbled!